OBITUARY: Richard H. “Dick” Grinder, Jr., 90, 2001 Wilmington Good Guy

Below is an obituary from Nichols Funeral Home:

WILMINGTON, MA — Richard H. “Dick” Grinder, Jr., age 90, a long-time Wilmington resident, passed away peacefully on March 4th, 2022.

Born on November 24th, 1931, Dick was the son of Richard and Dorothy (Brooke) Grinder. He was raised in a military family and grew up all over the world; meeting new people and seeing new places.

Following his graduation from high school, Dick attended the prestigious United States Military Academy at West Point. Upon his graduation, he was commissioned as an officer in the United States Army. Dick attended basic training at Fort Bliss, where he met and married the love of his life, Margaret “Peg” Fletcher, a fellow “Army Brat”. After completing Ranger Training, Dick’s assignments included Fort Niagara, Korea, Fort Sill, OK, Fort Bliss, Germany, Norfolk, VA, Vietnam and a final stop back in Fort Sill. He actively served the country during the Vietnam and Korean wars. Dick earned many commendations and medals during his military career to include the Bronze Star medal.

Dick was honorably discharged from the Army at the rank of Captain; he and Peg settled in Wilmington, Massachusetts where they would continue to raise their two children, Richard, III and Ellen. Dick took a job at Raytheon and was employed there until his retirement. When asked what his favorite part of his job was, his consistent response was “the people”, with whom he was fortunate to work with.

Dick was also very involved in the Wilmington Community. Dick was an active member of the Wilmington Congregational Church, where he ran the Sunday School program and served as a deacon for many years and could be found helping out wherever needed. He was a long-time volunteer with the Boy Scouts. He was a registered scout himself for over 50 years and also received the highest honor one can achieve of “Silver Beaver”.

Dick, an avid photographer, was active in the WCTV program, volunteering his time as a cameraman, videotaping many events like church services, 4th of July festivities and other local events. Dick enjoyed volunteering at the Wilmington Senior Center and could also be found “working out” at RMA Fitness. In 2001, Dick was honored by the Town of Wilmington for continuously giving his time and talents to the Wilmington community and was honored with the Wilmington “Good Guy” Award.

Dick was a very devoted and loving family man. He showered his family with unconditional love and support throughout their lives and was so proud of their accomplishments. Dick will be fondly remembered as a great guy; kind, caring, honest, loyal, and a great friend to many. He loved his family with all his heart and will forever be missed.

Dick was the beloved husband of the late Margaret Ann “Peg” (Fletcher) Grinder, loving father of Richard H. Grinder, III, his wife Mary (Pergola) & her son Scott (Long), and Ellen B. Grinder all of Wilmington. Son of the late Richard H. and Dorothy (Brooke) Grinder. Richard was predeceased by his sister Dorothy. He is survived by several nieces and nephews as well as many friends.

Visiting hours for Dick will be held on Monday, March 14th, from 4-7:30 p.m. at the Nichols Funeral Home, 187 Middlesex Ave (Rt 62), Wilmington.

Due to the pandemic, a service was not held for Peg, therefore, a celebration of life in honor of both Dick & Peg will be held on Tuesday, March 15th, at the Wilmington Congregational Church, 220 Middlesex Ave, Wilmington at 10:00 a.m. Interment with military honors to follow in Wildwood Cemetery.

Information about donations in Richard’s name will be made available at a later time.

Dick Grinder

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