OBITUARY: Richard K. “Dick” Hayden, 82

Below is an obituary from Nichols Funeral Home:

WILMINGTON, MA — Richard K. Hayden “Dick”, age 82, of Wilmington, formerly of Somerville, passed away peacefully on April 12, 2021.

Dick was born on March 16, 1939; he was the dear son of the late Mary (Donovan) Hayden. Dick was raised and educated in Somerville; he went on to put himself through private school by caddying at Winchester Country Club and graduated from Malden Catholic High School; an accomplishment to which he was very proud of.

Dick met his wife Joan or his “Joanie Girl” as he fondly referred to her while working at First National. The couple were soon inseparable and were married on June 30, 1962. They moved to Wilmington in 1966 where they raised a beautiful family.

Dick had many interests including his love of learning, reading, golf, sports, music, theater & travel. He had a genuine curiosity and interest in what others were doing. Family, faith & service were the most important things in his life along with a strong work ethic to which Dick always led by example.

He loved hanging with the guys at the Knights of Columbus, on the golf course at Thompson Country Club where he was a long-standing member or catching countless sporting events. Dick loved his Boston sports teams, but he especially enjoyed following the New England Patriots where he was a season ticket holder for 40 years or the Boston College Eagles football team where he held his season tickets for 35 years. He was an avid fan of local youth and college sports, whether or not he knew anyone personally playing. Dick loved to dance and talk with everyone; he never met a “stranger”.

Dick never forgot his Somerville roots and was proud of that as well as his time in the Marines. He felt very strongly that the Marines, as well as his catholic school education taught him life lessons and helped to guide him. Dick had a thirst for knowledge and a craving for self-improvement; he spent 13 years in night school while raising a family and managed to earn his Associates Degree from Bentley College then on to Northeastern University for his Bachelor’s Degree and finally his Master’s Degree from Boston College. Dick always encouraged his six children and eighteen grandchildren to pursue their own interests through education and he was always there to help and support them in any way. Dick was always so proud to march in the annual Memorial Day Parade in Wilmington along with his fellow Veterans. Dick also enjoyed a successful career in operations and information systems starting out at First National grocery stores, then moving to GSX, Cabot Corporation, Fresenius Medical Care and the May Institute.

It was not uncommon to walk into the Hayden household on Arlene Ave. and find Dick with one of his kids (or a friend’s son or daughter) sitting at the dining room table going over their resume or discussing a difficult work or school situation. He guided all to think through solutions with a leaning towards what was best for your career but also your family. He felt strongly that new opportunities and experiences were the best learning opportunities. Dick encouraged everyone to do their best and was quite a mentor to many. In his retirement he volunteered his time as part of the Wilmington Finance Committee, the Friends of the Library and Wilmington Education Foundation.

Dick wanted to see the world and he did with his wife Joan – traveling with her, as well as family and friends was a great joy. Although seemingly opposites, nothing was more important to him than his wife. They were partners in every way as they raised their children and genuinely enjoyed their time together golfing, traveling, dancing at the K of C with friends or hosting their family at the house – especially by the pool!

On any given weekend Dick would have a list of maybe 10 or so sporting events to watch of the grandkids. He would travel all over the place to watch hockey, soccer, baseball, lacrosse, football, track, basketball, field hockey – basically anything the grandkids did. He was also a fixture at dance recitals for his daughters & granddaughters for many years – absolutely enjoying every performance.

Dick will be fondly remembered as a “great guy”, a true family man and a trusted friend to many; he will forever be in the hearts of those he loved.

Dick was the beloved husband of Joan Hayden (White), devoted father of Michele and Bryon Kincaid (Wilmington), Laurie & Dennis Robarge (Wilmington), Andrea & Eric Braciska (Tewksbury), Richard & Maureen Hayden (Wilmington), Jennifer & Eric Cushing (Wilmington) and Jacqui & Tim Allard (Wilmington). He was the Loving “Pa” of Jonathan Kincaid & wife Marion, Matthew Kincaid & wife Kristin, Zachary Kincaid, Nicholas Robarge & fiancée Meaghan, Hayley Robarge & fiancé Kyle, Caroline Robarge, Christian Robarge, Allyson, Meghan & Kyle Braciska, Emily, Melanie & Ryan Hayden, Shea, Owen & Luke Cushing, Colin & Emma Allard and his Great-Grandsons Ben, Jonathan & Jake Kincaid. He was the dear brother of James Hayden & wife Carol (Stoneham) and the late Edie Previdi & husband Bill (Gloucester), son-in-law of the late Leonard & Winifred White, brother-in-law of Leonard & Maureen White (Burlington) and the late Lois & Richard Jackson. He is further survived by many nieces and nephews.

Family and friends will gather for Visiting Hours in St. Thomas of Villanova Church, 126 Middlesex Ave., Wilmington, MA, on Friday, April 16th from 4:00-8:00 p.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will take place in the Church on Saturday, April 17th at 10:00 a.m. Interment with Military Honors will follow in Wildwood Cemetery, Wilmington. Masks are required to be worn while in Church.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Dick’s memory may be made to the Alzheimer’s Association, 309 Waverley Oaks Road, Waltham, MA 02452 or to Local Heroes, Inc., P. O. Box 536, Wilmington, MA 01887.

Dick Hayden

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